Legalizing my name.

I don’t like the name I legalized. Someone in my family didn’t want me to masculinize my name to Charles, so I went with Cai.

That was 5 years ago. Time and again the regret popped up, and I would try to do something about it. People stole my username when I deactivated some accounts. Others gave me a hard time with changing usernames back and forth. I tried but failed a prior time for legalizing my name. And I’m not paying $3k for using the proper form of my name for a .com.

Legal forms spread out.
Filling out (again!) for my alias to legally be my name.

Everywhere you file for a name change is different, whether by country, even by US state. Where I live, it’s easy-ish, just pricey, but the total cost (last time for me it was somewhere north of $750 between legal and notice fees) is broken up between steps. Since courthouses are closed to the general public, I mailed my forms and money order for the initial processing fee at the local post office.

Funny how it is, using a debit card which bears my current alias, to pay for my new one.

So, in the coming weeks, I can finally pay for each step, and correct this massive, grave error. I still insist on choosing a new name and legalizing it before medically transitioning, as the paperwork will otherwise be a headache with legal vs alias names. At the very least, if informed consent or gender identity laws are not present in your area, visit a gender therapist who can write that letter for the judge if you choose a name that’s not unisex and unambiguously related to the opposite sex, to minimize negation of a name change.

And as my name change furthers, I’ll update you.

Author: Charlie

I live my life trying to be your everyday guy. Drink—maybe too much?—coffee. Watch hockey. Work to pay the bills. The truth is, there’s one major aspect of me that separates me from most men: I was born with a female body. I am three years post-op, and have never been happier with both my body and my life, or quality of life.

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